Here are eight things that eight divorced women wish they had done differently throughout their marriages.

Divorce is never good. Some may feel autonomous from their toxic marriage, but a large part of their "Self" is destroyed and irreparably damaged. Separation is costly and much is lost and forgotten. Most divorce tales involve the same elements, from passionate arguments to poisonous love. 

On the other hand, a lot of people feel bad about the way they treated their marriages and wish they could change the circumstances that led to this tragic outcome. These seven ladies who have gone through divorces all agree on one thing: there were things they might have done differently as spouses.

Working women inspire. I worked hard to succeed in my field since women find it hard to achieve their ambitions. Not all success tales end happily. Even after marriage, I lost life's pleasures. I was too focused on my career to spend time with my partner. 

He recognized the significance of my profession to me, but he also saw that I needed to relax. I ignored his requests for vacation time since I was too preoccupied with my job. I suppose we drifted apart too much during that time for him to bear.

I had a passionate marriage 10 years ago. Like many love marriages, ours was fascinating and adventurous. Contrary to my youth, I stopped worrying about my appearance and hygiene. My looks was neglected. He told me to take care of myself, but I ignored him and found him cheating, which startled and guilted me.

Never neglect your family's needs. I made that mistake and am now alone. We had a lovely marriage like everyone else. After the euphoria of the early years, I took my spouse for granted. The more he remained, the bigger my ego got. Finally seeing his worth, he left me, and I couldn't blame him.

Family and friends showered me with love and attention from the time I was a little girl. In life, I was never shortchanged and always received exactly what I asked for. Similarly, as I matured, I began to anticipate a similar level of affection and appreciation from those I partnered with. 

Despite our marriage, I still couldn't bring myself to introduce any of my husband's relatives or acquaintances to him. I would argue with him whenever he went out with his loved ones. I wished he could be by my side always. But eventually he drifted away because I recognized my over-dependence was suffocating him.

Criticism has always fascinated me. It may have always been my way. I wish I could have fixed things before my divorce. I never acknowledged my dear husband for his efforts to make me happy. I humiliated him. I compared him to my worst exes instead of declaring him my best achievement. Sometimes my insecurities got me.

My partner and I argued about several issues for years. New problems and tensions arose every morning. The fight started primarily because of me. I regret not owning my actions instead of blaming him daily. I could have taken charge as the bigger guy. I damaged our relationship with anxiety.

Every day, my industrious husband brought home workplace issues to address with me. I ignored his problems after trying to calm him. Instead of telling him he was perfect, I told him to quit moaning and regulate his emotions. I could have been more kind, but I hurt him.

My broken marriage taught me that passion is essential to a healthy marriage. The spark keeps couples together. I realized too late. My husband wanted to modify our relationship, but I made him feel childish, so he left. As bad as it is for me, I hope he finds someone who loves him too.

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